Sunday, December 14, 2025

out of the mouth of babes

 

Last weekend, I went to the Tucson tamale fest with our son Brian and our two grandchildren. As I got in the car, 5-year-old Saoirse asked, “papa, how come you are not dead if you are 78 years old?”


Her question reminded me of a time when Art Linkletter’s show (Kids Say the Darndest Things) was one of the most popular shows on television.

The show originally aired in 1959, and managed to stay on the air (with a variety of hosts) until 2021.

Our perspective on what “old” means changes as we get older.

When I was in my 20’s, anyone who was over 70 would be considered to be ancient.

The average life span for men in America today is 75.8, and the average lifespan for women is 81.1.

Life style, naturally, is one factor in longevity, but so is ethnicity. Asian-Americans life the longest, and Black Americans and Native Americans have the shortest life spans.

https://www.google.com/search?q=average+lifespan+in+america&rlz=1C1ONGR_enUS1058US1058&oq=&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUqCQgAECMYJxjqAjIJCAAQIxgnGOoCMgkIARAjGCcY6gIyCQgCECMYJxjqAjIJCAMQIxgnGOoCMgkIBBAjGCcY6gIyCQgFECMYJxjqAjIJCAYQIxgnGOoCMgkIBxAjGCcY6gIyFwgIEAAYQhhDGLQCGOoCGIAEGIoFGOcGMhcICRAAGEIYQxi0AhjqAhiABBiKBRjnBjIXCAoQABhCGEMYtAIY6gIYgAQYigUY5wYyFwgLEAAYQhhDGLQCGOoCGIAEGIoFGOcG0gEJMTI4MmowajE1qAIMsAIB8QXJZi7Au81_Qw&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Heredity also has an effect, which is good news for me, since I have 3 relatives on both sides who lived to be 95. My uncle Harold still would have an occasional beer even after he turned 90.

Keeping active also makes a difference.

Many of the singers we grew up with are still working well beyond 70.

Grahams Nash is still performing at the age of 83, and Mick Jagger (82) was still acting 5 years ago.

https://www.google.com/search?q=average+lifespan+in+america&rlz=1C1ONGR_enUS1058US1058&oq=&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUqCQgAECMYJxjqAjIJCAAQIxgnGOoCMgkIARAjGCcY6gIyCQgCECMYJxjqAjIJCAMQIxgnGOoCMgkIBBAjGCcY6gIyCQgFECMYJxjqAjIJCAYQIxgnGOoCMgkIBxAjGCcY6gIyFwgIEAAYQhhDGLQCGOoCGIAEGIoFGOcGMhcICRAAGEIYQxi0AhjqAhiABBiKBRjnBjIXCAoQABhCGEMYtAIY6gIYgAQYigUY5wYyFwgLEAAYQhhDGLQCGOoCGIAEGIoFGOcG0gEJMTI4MmowajE1qAIMsAIB8QXJZi7Au81_Qw&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

The point main character it this story, though, is Dick Van Dyke, who turned 100 years old today, December 13.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dick_Van_Dyke



His career spanned from 1947 to 2024, an impressive 77 years.

The link above includes a complete list of his accomplishments, but here is a quick summary:

Richard Wayne Van Dyke (born December 13, 1925) is an American actor and comedian. His work spans screen and stage, and his awards include six Emmy Awards, a Grammy Award, and a Tony Award. He was inducted into the Hollywood Walk of Fame in 1993, and then the Television Hall of Fame in 1995. He was recognized as a Disney Legend in 1998. He has been honored with the Screen Actors Guild Life Achievement Award in 2013, and the Kennedy Center Honors in 2020.

Van Dyke began his career as an entertainer on radio, television and in nightclubs. He made his Broadway debut in the musical revue The Girls Against the Boys (1959). The following year he starred as Albert F. Peterson in the original production of Bye Bye Birdie (1960), a role which earned him the Tony Award for Best Featured Actor in a Musical. He returned to Broadway playing Harold Hill in a revival of The Music Man (1980).

On television, Van Dyke became a household name in the United States and Canada portraying Rob Petrie in the CBS sitcom The Dick Van Dyke Show (1961–1966), which also earned him three Primetime Emmy Awards for Outstanding Lead Actor in a Comedy Series. He guest-starred on shows such as Columbo (1974) and The Carol Burnett Show (1977), and starred in The New Dick Van Dyke Show (1971–1974), Diagnosis: Murder (1993–2001), and Murder 101 (2006–2008).

Van Dyke is also known for his role as Bert, the cockney chimney sweep in the Disney movie musical Mary Poppins (1964), for which he was nominated for the Golden Globe Award for Best Actor in a Motion Picture – Musical or Comedy. He starred in the movie musicals Bye Bye Birdie (1963) and Chitty Chitty Bang Bang (1968), as well as the comedy-drama The Comic (1969). In his later years, Van Dyke has taken supporting roles in films such as Dick Tracy (1990), Curious George (2006), Night at the Museum (2006), its 2014 sequel, and Mary Poppins Returns (2018).

Most of the people that we consider our friends are well into their 70’s. and we are all experiencing the ravages of time. Sharon spent Thanksgiving this year in a hospital in Mesa due to her continuing issued with gastric issues, and a few relative that we know passed away this year.

If I live to be 100 years old, Saoirse will be 27 years old, and she may no longer think I am old as long as I can still walk upright and talk coherently.

In 2 years, I will be 80. If I live that long, there is a 30 % change that I will make if to 90, Given my family genetic history, I am pretty sure that I will make it that age, and possibly longer.

That's something to look forward to. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Monday, November 24, 2025

remember his name

 


A name popped up this morning on Facebook that I was not familiar with, but he just became more relevant due to the recent release of a movie about WWII, and the release of a video on Tuesday of last week.

 First of all, his name is Hugh Thompson, Jr, and this is his story:




 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hugh_Thompson_Jr.

 Hugh Clowers Thompson Jr. (April 15, 1943 – January 6, 2006) was a United States Army officer, serving as a warrant officer in the 123rd Aviation Battalion of the 23rd Infantry DivisionHe is credited with ending the My Lai massacre of the South Vietnamese village known as Sơn M on March 16, 1968, alongside Glenn Andreotta and Lawrence Colburn.

During the massacre, Thompson and his Hiller OH-23 Raven crew, Andreotta and Colburn, stopped many killings by threatening and blocking American officers and enlisted soldiers of Company C, 1st Battalion, 20th Infantry Regiment, 11th Brigade, 23rd Infantry Division. Additionally, Thompson and his crew saved a number of Vietnamese civilians by personally escorting them away from advancing United States Army ground units and assuring their evacuation by air. Thompson reported the atrocities by radio several times while at Sơn M. Although these reports reached Task Force Barker operational headquarters, nothing was done to stop the massacre. After evacuating a child to a Qung Ngãi hospital, Thompson angrily reported to his superiors at Task Force Barker headquarters that a massacre was occurring at Sơn M. Immediately following Thompson's report, Lieutenant Colonel Frank A. Barker ordered all ground units in Sơn M to cease search and destroy operations in the village.

In 1970, Thompson testified against those responsible for the M Lai massacre. Twenty-six officers and enlisted soldiers, including William Calley and Ernest Medina, were charged with criminal offenses; many were either acquitted or pardoned, notably excepting Calley, who was convicted and served a commuted sentence of three-and-a-half years under house arrest. Thompson was condemned and ostracized by many individuals in the United States military and government, as well as the public, for his role in the investigations and trials concerning the M Lai massacre. As a result of what he experienced, Thompson experienced post-traumatic stress disorderalcoholismdivorce, and severe nightmare disorder. Despite the adversity he faced, he remained in the Army until November 1, 1983, then continued to make a living as a helicopter pilot in the Southeastern United States.

In 1998, 30 years after the massacre, Thompson and the two other members of his crew, Andreotta and Colburn, were awarded the Soldier's Medal (Andreotta posthumously), the United States Army's highest award for bravery not involving direct contact with the enemy. Thompson and Colburn returned to Sơn M to meet with survivors of the massacre at the Sơn M Memorial in 1998. In 1999, Thompson and Colburn received the Peace Abbey Courage of Conscience Award.

A couple of weeks ago, I saw "Nuremberg", which was an outstanding movie. The defense that the Nazis used was that they were simply following orders, but  that argument did not let them escape the punishment that they deserved.

On Tuesday of last week, 6 Democratic lawmakers (Mellissa Slotkin of Michigan, Mark Kelly of Arizona, Maggie Goodlander of New Hampshire, Chrissy Houlahand of Pennsylvania, and Jason Crow of Colorado release a video reminding people in the military that they did not have to follow illegal orders.

Predictably, Trump went nuts.

He accused them of seditious behavior, and said that they should be tried for treason and hung.

The two people who SHOULD be tried are Pete Hegseth and Stephen Miller, the people most responsible for the murders near Venezuela.

Lt. Calley's actions might be considered proper in view of the fact that it started only 2 months after the Tet Offensive started, which was a major conflict in the Vietnam War. Although the United States won the battle, the battle turned public opinion against our involvement in the war. As a result, President Johnson announced on March 31, 1968, that he was not seeking re-election.

Pete Hegseth gathered military leaders at Marine Corps Base Quantico in Virginia on September 30, 2025. The meeting included hundreds of flag and general officers from around the world who were summoned for an address by Hegseth and President Trump. 

  • Location: The event was held at Marine Corps Base Quantico, a Marine Corps base in Northern Virginia, near Washington, D.C..
  • Who was gathered: The meeting included a rare gathering of nearly the entire senior officer corps, or a significant portion of it.
  • Reason for the meeting: Hegseth used the meeting to announce new directives and discuss his vision for the U.S. military. 

Since Pete Hegseth is one of the worst Department of Defense leaders we have ever had, it did not take long for the Pentagon to decide to investigate Senator Mark Kelly.

https://www.azcentral.com/story/news/politics/arizona/2025/11/24/mark-kelly-sedition-investigation-donald-trump/87449880007/?utm_source=azcentral-newsalert-strada&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=newsalert&utm_term=hero&utm_content=pphx-phoenix-nletter17

You can read Hegseth’s entire speech at the link below, but it is utter nonsense, so do not waste your time.

https://www.war.gov/News/Transcripts/Transcript/Article/4318689/secretary-of-war-pete-hegseth-addresses-general-and-flag-officers-at-quantico-v/

Hegseth's recent gathering of military leaders from around the globe at Marine Corps Base Quantico. was an absolutely stupid thing to do - and a reminder why we need more people like Hugh Thompson in the military. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Thursday, November 20, 2025

How to talk to your children about sex

 

In her latest book (“Why Fascists fear Teachers”), Randi Weingarten mentions a book that some people have had banned. It is titled “It’s Perfectly Normal”, and it discussed the physical and emotional changes that teens and adolescents go through as they are growing up.

I recently borrowed the book from the library, and found it both educational and entertaining.

 


The book contains numerous drawings of male and female genitalia, and also discusses some controversial topics, such as abortion, birth control, STD, and sexual abuse. In at least one case, it helped prevent further sexual abuse of a girl whose father was sexually abusing her.

Before I go any further, I need to give you a little background:

I grew up during the 1950’s - a time when “Ozzie and Harriet” was on prime-time television, and it remained there from 1952 until 1966, The couple also had a radio program from 1944 until 1954. In all, the television series lasted 14 years, and can still be viewed on YouTube

The 1950’s were a conservative era, and public discussion about sex, if it occurred at all, was pretty rare. Married couples on TV were not seen in bed together, and discussions about sex, even in family units was also sparse.

Starting in 2021, there have been thousands of books banned or challenged in parts of the United States. Most of the targeted books have to do with racegender, and sexuality. Unlike most book challenges in the past, whereby action began locally with parents or other stakeholders in the community engaging teachers and school administrators in a debate over a title, local parent groups have received support from conservative advocacy organizations working to nationalize the efforts focused on certain subjects. They have also been more likely to involve legal and legislative measures rather than just conversations in local communities. Journalists, academics, librarians, and others commonly link the coordinated, often well-funded book challenges to other efforts to restrict what students should learn about systemic bias and the history of the United States. Hundreds of books have been challenged, including high-profile examples like Maus by Art SpiegelmanNew Kid by Jerry Craft, and The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood.

The American Library Association documented 1,269 demands of book censorship in 2022. It was the highest the organization had ever recorded since it began collecting censorship data more than 20 years prior. A 2023 analysis by The Washington Post found that a majority of book challenges in over 100 school districts from the 2021–2022 school year were filed by just 11 people

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Book_banning_in_the_United_States_(2021%E2%80%93present)

One of the books that had been banned is “It’s perfectly Normal”.

 The exact number of times “It's Perfectly Normal”has been banned is not available, but it has been removed from libraries and schools multiple times, making it one of the most frequently challenged books in recent years. It was removed from libraries in Florida's Walton County School District and has been pulled from school shelves at least seven times in one recent school year alone, according to CBS News. 

  • It's Perfectly Normal is a children's book about puberty and sex education by Robie Harris.
  • The book has been challenged and removed from school libraries and classrooms due to its frank discussions about sexuality.
  • It appears on lists of frequently challenged books, such as those compiled by the American Library Association.
  • The reasons cited for banning often include its content being considered "unsuited to age group" or due to its religious viewpoint. 

 

Not surprisingly, Florida is the state that has had the most books ban. As of 2022, the state had the most book bans in place, and Texas was in second place, with 625 book bans. Florida’s dubious record is due to the fact that the ultra-conservate group, Moms for Liberty, is based there.

https://worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/banned-books-by-state

 

Moms for Liberty is an American political organization that advocates against school curricula that mention LGBTQ rightsrace and ethnicitycritical race theory, and discrimination. Multiple chapters have also campaigned to ban books that address gender and sexuality from school libraries. Founded in January 2021, the group began by campaigning against COVID-19 responses in schools such as mask and vaccine mandates. Moms for Liberty is influential within the Republican Party.

Moms for Liberty has been variously described as populistreactionaryextremist, and far-right group. The group has been criticized for harassment, for deepening divisions among parents, for making students' education more difficult, and for having close ties to the Republican Party rather than being a genuine grassroots effort

Moms for Liberty was co-founded in Florida on January 1, 2021, by former school board members Tina Descovich and Tiffany Justice, and by then-current school board member Bridget Ziegler, the wife of Florida Republican Party Chairman Christian Ziegler. In spring 2021, Christian Ziegler was removed from his position in the party because of a sexual assault history. Republican activist and campaign consultant Marie Rogerson is the third-leading member of Moms for Liberty. Descovich receives a stipendas Moms for Liberty's executive director.

Like fascists everywhere, Governor DeSantis does not like an educated public, and his treatment of New College of Florida provides a good summary of his approach.

 https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2025/11/19/new-college-florida-desantis-makeover-cost/

Nearly three years ago, as Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis championed his culture-war policies during the run-up to a bid for the White House, he vowed to overhaul a small, quirky liberal arts college in Sarasota that was part of the state education system.

New College of Florida was “more into DEI, CRT, the gender ideology,” the Republican governor said, using abbreviations for diversity, equity and inclusion and for critical race theory. He added: “We’re going to be able to offer some reforms.”

DeSantis has largely succeeded in transforming what was one of the most liberal institutions in the state into a school that is now hailed by conservatives across the country. He handpicked a new president and appointed a board of trustees who fired and denied tenure to veteran professors. The school closed its gender studies center. It added sports teams and turned classrooms in a historic campus building into donor-friendly spaces with cigar smoking allowed on the balcony overlooking Sarasota Bay.

 Now the bill for that effort has arrived, and it shows a remarkably high price. According to a report released this month by the Florida Department of Government Efficiency (DOGE), the cost to produce a degree at New College is $494,715 — the highest among public colleges in Florida and more than three times the $150,729 cost at the state’s flagship school, the University of Florida.

Operating expenses at New College are $83,207 per student, compared with $45,765 at UF. New College also has the largest number of administrators per student, or 33.3 per 100, compared with 26.9 at UF, a school with nearly 62,000 students.

Enrollment has increased since the overhaul, but with 732 current students, New College is still short of the school’s stated goal of 1,200. More than a third of the new students are athletes recruited to fill recently created collegiate sports teams, including baseball, basketball and softball.

One of the new trustees DeSantis appointed was Christopher Rufo, the conservative activist who has led campaigns against critical race theory and gender identity in schools and has advised DeSantis on education policy.

 

The DeSantis administration pledged to model New College after Hillsdale College, a private Christian school in Michigan. New College adopted what it calls a “classical” curriculum centered on the Western canon. Freshmen are required to take a class on Homer’s “Odyssey.”

 

(Hillsdale College  is a member of the advisory board of Project 2025, a collection of conservative and right-wing policy proposals from The Heritage Foundation to reshape the United States federal government and consolidate executive power, since Trump won the 2024 presidential election.)

 

Attorney Alan Dershowitz, a staunch supporter of President Donald Trump, spoke at New College’s commencement in May. Corcoran announced in September that the school is commissioning a statue of slain conservative activist Charlie Kirk for the campus, to be funded by public donation

 But, let’s get back to the book>

For parents who are not comfortable discussing sex with their children, and for kids who simply do not know what questions to ask, this book can be a valuable resource.

 

 

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